How to Write a Best Man Speech: 10 Essential DO's & DON'Ts!

How to Write a Best Man Speech: 10 Essential DO's & DON'Ts!

So, you've been chosen as the best man! A position of honor and responsibility that comes with a unique challenge: delivering a remarkable best man speech.

Your words have the power to make people laugh, cry, and remember the good times, so it's important to get it just right. Whether you're a seasoned speaker or someone who shies away from public speaking, our Speech Savvy team of pros have compiled a complete list of do's and don'ts to help you write a best man speech that's sure to be remembered for all the right reasons.


Best Man toasts bride groom

The Do's: Crafting an Unforgettable Best Man Speech

Make It Personal

A best man speech is your opportunity to showcase your genuine connection with the groom. Share a heartfelt story, an inside joke, or a memorable moment that reflects your relationship. Authenticity is key - don't try to be someone you're not.


Groom laughs with his brother best man

Take Your Time

When you take the mic, take a deep breath, and embrace the moment. Aim for a speech that lasts between three to five minutes. Focus on meaningful stories and sentiments. Avoid rushing through your speech; the audience's sense of time is different from yours!


Best man wedding speech during reception

Use Humor (Appropriately)

A well-placed joke or funny story can engage the audience and put you at ease. However, tread lightly and steer clear of anything offensive or inappropriate. Opt for PG/PG13 humor that can be appreciated by a wide range of guests.


funny best man straightens bowtie with groomsmen

Speak to Both the Groom and the Bride

Yes, your connection with the groom is central! But remember that the day celebrates the couple's union. Acknowledge the bride and her role in the groom's life. Strike a balance between honoring your friendship with the groom and paying tribute to their relationship.


Best man pours champagne for newly married couple

Practice, Practice, and More Practice!

Rehearse your speech multiple times to develop a good pace and refine your delivery. Practice in front of friends, groomsmen, or even a mirror. Being comfortable with your speech will make you more confident on the big day.


The Don'ts: What to Avoid in Your Best Man Speech

Bride is upset before wedding speeches

Don't Upset the Bride

Be "Bride Aware"! Steer clear of any material that could embarrass or offend the bride, even if you think it's a harmless joke. This includes any mention of exes! To avoid potential issues, consider running any ideas you're unsure about by the bride or groom before the wedding day.


best man nervous about his speech with too many notes

Don't Rely on Notecards

While notes can help with structure and quotes, reading your entire speech from them can make it feel rehearsed and insincere. Speak from the heart and maintain eye contact with the audience as best you can.


funny groom is tossed into the air by best man and groomsman

Don't Harass the Groom

Avoid teasing the groom too much or sharing embarrassing stories that might cause drama and overshadow the happy day. Opt for self-deprecating humor if you want to inject light-heartedness. Or stories where the groom is foolish, but still charming.


Don't Wait Until the Last Minute

Procrastination can lead to anxiety and a rushed speech. Start brainstorming and jotting down ideas several months before the wedding. Keep a note on your phone that you can update any time an idea strikes you! This gives you plenty of time to write, rewrite, and practice your speech.


Best Man drank too much at wedding

Don't Drink Too Much 

Resist the urge to calm nerves with alcohol. A clear and sober mind will ensure your words are eloquent, respectful, and heartfelt. It's a moment that you'll want to remember too!

Giving a best man speech is an honor that comes with preparation and responsibility. By following these expert tips, you can craft a speech that shows your connection with the groom while respecting the bride and the significance of the occasion.

Cheers to a successful best man speech!

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